We have always tried to emphasize the true meaning of Christmas and for the past couple of years we haven't even had the option of buying presents. Now that doesn't mean we haven't bought the children anything. We just don't go hog wild and spend a bunch of money on stuff we don't need anyway. We always have enough little stuff to fill everyone's stockings and we also buy something special for each child. Last year we seriously thought about not buying anything at all so we had the smallest Christmas ever in terms of gifts and honestly I don't think having fewer gifts made our celebration for the birth of Christ any greater. We love Jesus every day and we realize we can never come near to matching the gift He has given us.
With all that said, this year I purchased a few little things here and there during the summer at yard sales. The kids are not spoiled and a used gift is just as special as a new gift to them. It is also good to recycle so we always buy used when we can. I also went out on the day after Thanksgiving to wait in line at 4:30 a.m. for a friend of mine. Since I was already awake, I decided that I would do a little shopping myself. I am glad I did because I found a few very good deals and got each child something he/she would like.
Chris and I had also wanted to buy each child a new Bible. They all have children's Bibles, but they are beyond those now. Everyone except Hannah needed to move up to a study Bible and it just so happened that the place where I work was having a sale on Bibles. We had planned to buy everyone a Bible and have it personalized, but then I was put in the hospital last week. We found out that my blood clotting problems are back.
I did a lot of thinking while I was in the hospital and I decided that I definitely wanted to get everyone a special Bible and also have each one personalized. When I went out after Thanksgiving, what I bought Sarah and Hannah was a scrapbook. I really wanted to get the boys one, too, but they were just so expensive that I decided against it. After I spent the week in the hospital and found out about the newer clots, I decided that the scrapbooks couldn't wait! I went back to the store yesterday and bought the boys one.
Now I'm so excited because I've decided to spend the month of January focusing on photographs, family history, and scrapbooking. We're going to put the books out at each person's assigned seat at the table and we'll just eat in the living room until the scrapbooks are done. I think it's going to be great fun!
I think the Bibles, scrapbooks, and stocking stuffers I bought are going to make for the most wonderful Christmas gifts ever. I LOVE giving gifts and these are perfect!! I wish everyone could have so much fun with little things as our family does. It is truly a blessing.
Sonya
http://www.thehomeschooladvocate.com/
Saturday, December 20, 2008
Friendship in a Pile of Produce
On our local homeschool digest (e-mail tree), we post all sorts of information of interest to homeschool families. One of my favorite bits of information is a list of weekly store ads. A local mom goes through all the store fliers for the week and forwards those to me, then I post them to the digest. I've had increasing problems with my digestive system all fall and a few weeks ago, I posted a note asking if anyone was aware of sales on citrus fruit, particularly grapefruit and oranges, that I would appreciate it if they would post this on the digest.
I received a few responses to my post, but then the next week I got to the point where I could barely eat anyway. Then, last week I was put in the hospital so eating wasn't really an issue at all. Before I was discharged from the hospital, one of my best friends started arranging for people to bring meals to our house so that I wouldn't have to cook when I came home.
Apparently several of the people remembered my request for citrus foods because when I came home from the hospital, my kitchen counter looked like a mini-produce market! I had apples, oranges, grapefruit, grapes, and bananas across the counter top. It was so wonderful! The casseroles that we've received have been absolutely delicious, but I haven't been able to eat much of those. Chris and the children have greatly enjoyed them, though! Each evening since I've been home, I have eaten one or two grapefruits and / or an orange. For some reason it doesn't fill me up like other food - because it's mostly liquid, I guess - but it forces my digestive system to function. Yeah!
I was just sitting here thinking about how friendship is shown in so many forms and it can even be evident through a pile of produce.
Sonya
http://www.thehomeschooladvocate.com/
I received a few responses to my post, but then the next week I got to the point where I could barely eat anyway. Then, last week I was put in the hospital so eating wasn't really an issue at all. Before I was discharged from the hospital, one of my best friends started arranging for people to bring meals to our house so that I wouldn't have to cook when I came home.
Apparently several of the people remembered my request for citrus foods because when I came home from the hospital, my kitchen counter looked like a mini-produce market! I had apples, oranges, grapefruit, grapes, and bananas across the counter top. It was so wonderful! The casseroles that we've received have been absolutely delicious, but I haven't been able to eat much of those. Chris and the children have greatly enjoyed them, though! Each evening since I've been home, I have eaten one or two grapefruits and / or an orange. For some reason it doesn't fill me up like other food - because it's mostly liquid, I guess - but it forces my digestive system to function. Yeah!
I was just sitting here thinking about how friendship is shown in so many forms and it can even be evident through a pile of produce.
Sonya
http://www.thehomeschooladvocate.com/
Wednesday, December 10, 2008
Creative Answer
I have felt very bad lately so I haven't been upstairs much to the children's area. Chris goes up there every evening when he is getting the children ready for bed, but I just don't have the energy to climb the stairs or worry about cleaning up there. We do expect the children to do that on their own.
Today I was carrying some books upstairs that had been in the living room for a couple of weeks and as I went upstairs, I could see in the boys' Lego play area. There are Legos everywhere.
I said, "Gee whiz, boys. Can't you pick up the Legos as you play and keep them off the floor?"
Daniel (7) said, "But we don't need to, Mommy. We've memorized where they all are so when we go in there, we just step over the ones in the floor and find an empty spot to sit in while we play."
Perhaps I should try this for the rest of the house since I haven't felt well anyway! : )
Sonya
www.sonyahaskins.com
Today I was carrying some books upstairs that had been in the living room for a couple of weeks and as I went upstairs, I could see in the boys' Lego play area. There are Legos everywhere.
I said, "Gee whiz, boys. Can't you pick up the Legos as you play and keep them off the floor?"
Daniel (7) said, "But we don't need to, Mommy. We've memorized where they all are so when we go in there, we just step over the ones in the floor and find an empty spot to sit in while we play."
Perhaps I should try this for the rest of the house since I haven't felt well anyway! : )
Sonya
www.sonyahaskins.com
Tuesday, December 9, 2008
Concerning the Bailout...
Are you STILL confused about the bailout? Are you STILL trying to wrap your mind around the numbers being thrown around every day by politicians? Here are some things to think about:
The auto industry was asking for $700,000,000,000 billion. Or, as the media would say, $700 billion. I think they should be required to SHOW how many zeros are in that number.
Let’s consider this number based on an individual’s responsibility:
As of November 2008, it is estimated that the population of humans living on planet Earth is 6.73 billion. If the bailout passed at $700 billion, that means that every man, woman and child, working or not, sick or healthy, American citizen or any other person living on the planet would need to contribute $104.01 each to cover the bailout.
If other countries think it’s our problem, which it is, and they would prefer to pay their own bills and have us pay our own (gee, there’s an idea), then that leaves the American tax-paying population to foot the bill. There are approximately 305,725,980 people in America right now. This means each American is contributing $2,289.63 EACH toward the bailout at $700 billion.
But wait, I said “tax-paying” Americans. When you consider the fact that there are approximately 43 million Americans who filed an income tax return, but who had no tax liability, that leaves only 262,725,980 people to divide the bill, which brings it up to $2,664.37 per person, including children.
Now let’s look at it based on households:
According to Census Bureau, In 2007, the median annual household income rose 1.3% to $50,233.00.
There is an average of 2.59 people per household. This means that each household would be responsible for $6,900.72 to pay for the bailout.
With an average annual income of $50,233 per household (Census Bureau, 2007), this means the average household will spend 13.7% of their annual income for the bailout!
I don’t know about the rest of you, but we can barely pay our $200/month electric bill. I certainly don’t know where we’re going to come up with money to cover the bailout and believe me – we WILL PAY FOR THIS!!! Whether it’s today or tomorrow, the money must come from somewhere.
The people making the choice:
The annual salary of each United States senator and each representative, as of 2008, is $169,300. This means that they are spending 1.35% of their salary for the bailout. This doesn’t include extra income from their spouses, speaking engagements, and other investments. In other words, most senators would be spending less than 1% where the rest of us are spending over 13% of our income!!
Who is going to pay for this bailout?
Americans who work hard to make sure that we manage our businesses properly, pay our bills on time, pay our own mortgages, and WORK will be paying for this bailout – whether it’s $700 billion or $15 billion. We are working so hard that we’re working ourselves to death to take care of the elite who are making decisions that affect people they know nothing about like those of us struggling to buy food, but who don’t qualify for any sort of aid and don’t want it anyway. Senators and representatives claim to be the voice of the people, but they are no longer the voice of the people. When a median income is around $50 and they make more than three times that amount, they are NO LONGER THE VOICE OF THE PEOPLE. They are the voice of those who have lined their pockets with donations and given them special interests to fight for at the expense of the rest of us who have no special interest other than being hard-working citizens of the United States of America.
If you still care at all what citizens of the United States think about this issue, PLEASE VOTE AGAINST ANY BAILOUT plan. Tell your congressmen that you oppose it! We are tired of paying for people who mismanage their money, even if it means that thousands of people will lose their jobs. Let the free-market work. Perhaps they will find better jobs, but it certainly is their responsibility to find ANOTHER job. When in America did we develop the attitude that it is an employers (or the government's?!?) responsibility to ensure that people have a job?? It's a person's responsibility to FIND A JOB or - in America at least - to CREATE one for themselves. Start a new business or better car company. That used to be the American way, but now it is increasingly rare to see someone have the attitude or initiative to be AMERICAN when our socialist-leaning government is trying to pave the way for goverment-owned businesses rather than privately-owned businesses.
If you vote for the bailout and continue to throw money at companies who can’t manage it well in the first place, what makes you think they will manage it any better now? If they couldn’t manage their OWN money, why in the world do you think they are going to manage someone else’s money better?
The auto industry was asking for $700,000,000,000 billion. Or, as the media would say, $700 billion. I think they should be required to SHOW how many zeros are in that number.
Let’s consider this number based on an individual’s responsibility:
As of November 2008, it is estimated that the population of humans living on planet Earth is 6.73 billion. If the bailout passed at $700 billion, that means that every man, woman and child, working or not, sick or healthy, American citizen or any other person living on the planet would need to contribute $104.01 each to cover the bailout.
If other countries think it’s our problem, which it is, and they would prefer to pay their own bills and have us pay our own (gee, there’s an idea), then that leaves the American tax-paying population to foot the bill. There are approximately 305,725,980 people in America right now. This means each American is contributing $2,289.63 EACH toward the bailout at $700 billion.
But wait, I said “tax-paying” Americans. When you consider the fact that there are approximately 43 million Americans who filed an income tax return, but who had no tax liability, that leaves only 262,725,980 people to divide the bill, which brings it up to $2,664.37 per person, including children.
Now let’s look at it based on households:
According to Census Bureau, In 2007, the median annual household income rose 1.3% to $50,233.00.
There is an average of 2.59 people per household. This means that each household would be responsible for $6,900.72 to pay for the bailout.
With an average annual income of $50,233 per household (Census Bureau, 2007), this means the average household will spend 13.7% of their annual income for the bailout!
I don’t know about the rest of you, but we can barely pay our $200/month electric bill. I certainly don’t know where we’re going to come up with money to cover the bailout and believe me – we WILL PAY FOR THIS!!! Whether it’s today or tomorrow, the money must come from somewhere.
The people making the choice:
The annual salary of each United States senator and each representative, as of 2008, is $169,300. This means that they are spending 1.35% of their salary for the bailout. This doesn’t include extra income from their spouses, speaking engagements, and other investments. In other words, most senators would be spending less than 1% where the rest of us are spending over 13% of our income!!
Who is going to pay for this bailout?
Americans who work hard to make sure that we manage our businesses properly, pay our bills on time, pay our own mortgages, and WORK will be paying for this bailout – whether it’s $700 billion or $15 billion. We are working so hard that we’re working ourselves to death to take care of the elite who are making decisions that affect people they know nothing about like those of us struggling to buy food, but who don’t qualify for any sort of aid and don’t want it anyway. Senators and representatives claim to be the voice of the people, but they are no longer the voice of the people. When a median income is around $50 and they make more than three times that amount, they are NO LONGER THE VOICE OF THE PEOPLE. They are the voice of those who have lined their pockets with donations and given them special interests to fight for at the expense of the rest of us who have no special interest other than being hard-working citizens of the United States of America.
If you still care at all what citizens of the United States think about this issue, PLEASE VOTE AGAINST ANY BAILOUT plan. Tell your congressmen that you oppose it! We are tired of paying for people who mismanage their money, even if it means that thousands of people will lose their jobs. Let the free-market work. Perhaps they will find better jobs, but it certainly is their responsibility to find ANOTHER job. When in America did we develop the attitude that it is an employers (or the government's?!?) responsibility to ensure that people have a job?? It's a person's responsibility to FIND A JOB or - in America at least - to CREATE one for themselves. Start a new business or better car company. That used to be the American way, but now it is increasingly rare to see someone have the attitude or initiative to be AMERICAN when our socialist-leaning government is trying to pave the way for goverment-owned businesses rather than privately-owned businesses.
If you vote for the bailout and continue to throw money at companies who can’t manage it well in the first place, what makes you think they will manage it any better now? If they couldn’t manage their OWN money, why in the world do you think they are going to manage someone else’s money better?
Sunday, December 7, 2008
Greater to Give than to Receive...
The other day I was driving down the road thinking about all the difficulty we've been having and also about so many other families in need. There are MANY needs this year and these aren't minor needs, but families who are losing their homes or who are in danger of losing their homes, who can't pay to heat their homes, who can't afford food due to rising costs, etc. Many of you understand. Anyway, I was driving down the road on my way to work (Chris was off that day so he was watching the children) and I passed a man and a little girl walking along the road. I heard that little voice inside of me saying "Stop and offer them a ride." Now this isn't something I normally do, but I learned a long time ago to obey the voice. God saved my life once through that voice, but I won't share that story here. Some of you have heard it, but it was TRULY a miracle and I believe it was either an angel or the voice of God himself.
So anyway, I stopped the van, backed up, and asked if they wanted a ride. The man hesitated and then said, "It's a really long way to our home. If you could just take us a short distance, I would appreciate it." I said, "Absolutely not. You hop in and it would be my pleasure to take you all the way home."
I always have extra car seats in our vehicles so we buckled the little girl in and the man got in on the other side. I looked back at this adorable child, whose hair was brushed and who was probably cleaner than my children, but whose clothes were a bit dirty and she was missing one glove. We were driving along and he asked me to stop at the gas station so that he could put some gas in my car because it was "a really long way," but I told him not to worry about it. I told him that I had some very good friends who had helped me out recently and I really felt that God wanted me to give him a ride and not worry about the money.
He said, "Well, I'm very thankful, ma'am. I was a little worried about how I would get home by 3:30. I have to be there when the bus comes or they won't let my son off the bus because he's in kindergarten and someone has to meet the kindergartners or they won't let them off." Now it was around 12:30 when I picked them up so I was wondering how far away they actually lived. I was also wondering if he had to meet the bus every day so I said, "Is your wife working? Do you take turns meeting the bus depending on who is off work?"
"My wife is deceased, ma'am," he replied. I quickly glanced at the little girl because I was wondering what her reaction would be to this statement, but she was already sound asleep.
I changed the subject and asked him why they were out walking in the cold rain. (It was drizzling last Thursday when I picked them up.) He said that he had taken his daughter to Northside Hospital because she had been sick for a few days and couldn't seem to get over it. She had been diagnosed with an upper respiratory infection and after he went to the pharmacy to pick up the medicine, his car wouldn't start. I picked him up a couple of blocks from the pharmacy.
It was almost 15 miles to his apartment. We chatted the entire way. He was a very polite, friendly man and we discussed several things, including where he went to church, the economy, and how he had moved here earlier this year because he had heard that the job market was better here than in Virginia. He is a tailor by trade, but he came here to work in a factory because when the recession began, he said it was kind of difficult to get a job as a tailor any more. He moved here for a factory job and worked three months, but when the layoffs began in earnest a couple of months ago, he was among the first laid off since he was new.
I asked if he had any other children besides the little girl, who had just turned four, and the six-year-old boy. He also has 9 and 12-year-old girls. We arrived at his home about this time and I asked him if he needed anything. I was thinking of the money I had in my purse that had been given to us because we are having such a difficult time. I didn't want to give it away. I had plans for it, after all. I asked if they had food and he told me that they did.
I drove away and cried the entire way to work. I worked for a couple of hours, but I couldn't get this family off my mind. I had made him give me his phone number and I had taken his number, too. I told him that if he had any difficulty getting his car, he should call me and I would do what I could to help him. I also told him I'd check up on him to see if he needed anything so I called him that evening and asked if he really had everything he needed. Bills? He said they'd be ok. Food? They have food stamps. Clothing? He said they get hand-me-downs and buy other stuff at the Salvation Army so they were fine. Christmas gifts? He said he saved some of the money from his last paycheck to buy the children each a gift and he was going to do that, but if I could possibly give him a ride to town to buy the gifts, he would appreciate that since he doesn't know if his car would be fixed before Christmas. I told him I had been given some money and I would like to buy the children's stocking stuff, like toothbrushes, toothpaste, candy, and some other little stocking things. And I asked if they needed anything for winter like gloves (since the little girl only had one on). He said, "OH YES! If you could just do that, I would be so appreciative. The children could really use some gloves."
My children, two of my friend's children (who were spending the weekend) and I went out on Friday and spent about $50 on each child. We had a lot of fun and bought them things that many people would take for granted or at least not consider a huge treat, but that these children will probably really appreciate - a new toothbrush, your own tube of toothpaste, some little kids' hand gel, a slinky, gloves, winter hats, etc. Our children greatly appreciate these things because they are a treat they receive at Christmas so we bought the children all the things we usually put in our own stockings and my children had great fun being the "givers" rather than the "receivers."
It may seem that I have wasted the money I was given, but I didn't. I can't imagine why in the world God would send that money my way and then place someone in such need right in my path if he didn't want me to share it with them. It's not just about the money, after all. I'm going to take the dad Christmas shopping this week. (We don't have any more money, but I'll give him a ride! :) We're also inviting them over for Christmas Eve. His children are in such close age to ours and it would be a joy to have them visit. Perhaps we can develop a relationship, even a friendship with this family. That's certainly worth much more than the $200 we spent.
And I'm not worried about our bills any more. You know, I think the reason I cried so much after I dropped this man off is because Chris was almost left raising five young children a few years ago. If that had happened, or even if it happened tomorrow, I know my husband would not ask for help. If he were walking along the side of the road with Hannah and someone picked them up, he would insist on giving them gas money, whether he had it to offer or not. It's just the man he is. And this man was laid off at the same time as my aunt, brother and uncle. It all just seemed a bit too coincidental and a bit overwhelming. So many people hear of others needing help, but I grew up without a home most of the time. I've been homeless and without food and I don't want to be in that position again, but that is selfish. The Lord knows our needs and he never fails to meet them.
I have been sick all weekend as my immune problems are seriously acting up again. I've pretty much felt awful this entire fall, and I've been having fevers off and on again for a couple of weeks and this weekend I had severe headaches. A little over a week ago I also started having some horrible side effects to my medicine that I won't even mention here. It's very depressing and draining on my system. However, I am VERY happy. I will not ask for help again. I appreciate the help we received during the past few weeks and we will continue to look for wood, but the encounter with this man reminded me once again that we are only worrying about our bills and my health. There could be so much more to worry over, but we serve an awesome God and even if we lost everything we own, we STILL would serve an awesome God.
God doesn't change and I believe the lesson in all this is that nothing on this earth really matters except what we do with what we have (are we willing to share what we've been given to someone who needs it even more?) and what we do with what we KNOW (are we willing to share the gospel with those who may not have a relationship with the savior?).I'm sorry this is long. I figure since I haven't written much in the past couple of weeks, I could make up a tiny bit. I also wanted to give everyone an update and encourage you this holiday season to share with someone in need. Many of you are. Some of you have so little to share in material terms, but you can share the GOOD NEWS. Others sit on thrones of judgment and offer nothing to those who they believe have gotten themselves into the situation and should get themselves out. It is good to know that most of the people who will read this fall into the first two categories.
I'm sure most of you have heard of cases this year of need in your community, through your church, etc. Many of the people in greatest need don't go to church. They think "those people" (Christians) judge them and they aren't "good enough" to go to church. Reach out to these people, too. They are perhaps in the greatest need because they don't have a church to offer them material help, but also they don't have the Lord to provide comfort. Find them. Pray for them. Look for them. Trust me, if you are willing to reach out to them, God will place them in your path, even if it means that he has to put them right beside your vehicle on a drizzly day on the side of the road. If you are willing, He will give you an opportunity to serve Him.
I pray that all of you who are worrying right now about bills, the economy, relationships, your job, etc. will find peace this holiday season. I also hope that you will have many opportunities to share with others this Christmas and throughout the coming year. It truly is a blessing to be able to give something to someone else, whether it's a ride, a new toothbrush, or a simply a bit of friendship.
In Christ,
Sonya Haskins
So anyway, I stopped the van, backed up, and asked if they wanted a ride. The man hesitated and then said, "It's a really long way to our home. If you could just take us a short distance, I would appreciate it." I said, "Absolutely not. You hop in and it would be my pleasure to take you all the way home."
I always have extra car seats in our vehicles so we buckled the little girl in and the man got in on the other side. I looked back at this adorable child, whose hair was brushed and who was probably cleaner than my children, but whose clothes were a bit dirty and she was missing one glove. We were driving along and he asked me to stop at the gas station so that he could put some gas in my car because it was "a really long way," but I told him not to worry about it. I told him that I had some very good friends who had helped me out recently and I really felt that God wanted me to give him a ride and not worry about the money.
He said, "Well, I'm very thankful, ma'am. I was a little worried about how I would get home by 3:30. I have to be there when the bus comes or they won't let my son off the bus because he's in kindergarten and someone has to meet the kindergartners or they won't let them off." Now it was around 12:30 when I picked them up so I was wondering how far away they actually lived. I was also wondering if he had to meet the bus every day so I said, "Is your wife working? Do you take turns meeting the bus depending on who is off work?"
"My wife is deceased, ma'am," he replied. I quickly glanced at the little girl because I was wondering what her reaction would be to this statement, but she was already sound asleep.
I changed the subject and asked him why they were out walking in the cold rain. (It was drizzling last Thursday when I picked them up.) He said that he had taken his daughter to Northside Hospital because she had been sick for a few days and couldn't seem to get over it. She had been diagnosed with an upper respiratory infection and after he went to the pharmacy to pick up the medicine, his car wouldn't start. I picked him up a couple of blocks from the pharmacy.
It was almost 15 miles to his apartment. We chatted the entire way. He was a very polite, friendly man and we discussed several things, including where he went to church, the economy, and how he had moved here earlier this year because he had heard that the job market was better here than in Virginia. He is a tailor by trade, but he came here to work in a factory because when the recession began, he said it was kind of difficult to get a job as a tailor any more. He moved here for a factory job and worked three months, but when the layoffs began in earnest a couple of months ago, he was among the first laid off since he was new.
I asked if he had any other children besides the little girl, who had just turned four, and the six-year-old boy. He also has 9 and 12-year-old girls. We arrived at his home about this time and I asked him if he needed anything. I was thinking of the money I had in my purse that had been given to us because we are having such a difficult time. I didn't want to give it away. I had plans for it, after all. I asked if they had food and he told me that they did.
I drove away and cried the entire way to work. I worked for a couple of hours, but I couldn't get this family off my mind. I had made him give me his phone number and I had taken his number, too. I told him that if he had any difficulty getting his car, he should call me and I would do what I could to help him. I also told him I'd check up on him to see if he needed anything so I called him that evening and asked if he really had everything he needed. Bills? He said they'd be ok. Food? They have food stamps. Clothing? He said they get hand-me-downs and buy other stuff at the Salvation Army so they were fine. Christmas gifts? He said he saved some of the money from his last paycheck to buy the children each a gift and he was going to do that, but if I could possibly give him a ride to town to buy the gifts, he would appreciate that since he doesn't know if his car would be fixed before Christmas. I told him I had been given some money and I would like to buy the children's stocking stuff, like toothbrushes, toothpaste, candy, and some other little stocking things. And I asked if they needed anything for winter like gloves (since the little girl only had one on). He said, "OH YES! If you could just do that, I would be so appreciative. The children could really use some gloves."
My children, two of my friend's children (who were spending the weekend) and I went out on Friday and spent about $50 on each child. We had a lot of fun and bought them things that many people would take for granted or at least not consider a huge treat, but that these children will probably really appreciate - a new toothbrush, your own tube of toothpaste, some little kids' hand gel, a slinky, gloves, winter hats, etc. Our children greatly appreciate these things because they are a treat they receive at Christmas so we bought the children all the things we usually put in our own stockings and my children had great fun being the "givers" rather than the "receivers."
It may seem that I have wasted the money I was given, but I didn't. I can't imagine why in the world God would send that money my way and then place someone in such need right in my path if he didn't want me to share it with them. It's not just about the money, after all. I'm going to take the dad Christmas shopping this week. (We don't have any more money, but I'll give him a ride! :) We're also inviting them over for Christmas Eve. His children are in such close age to ours and it would be a joy to have them visit. Perhaps we can develop a relationship, even a friendship with this family. That's certainly worth much more than the $200 we spent.
And I'm not worried about our bills any more. You know, I think the reason I cried so much after I dropped this man off is because Chris was almost left raising five young children a few years ago. If that had happened, or even if it happened tomorrow, I know my husband would not ask for help. If he were walking along the side of the road with Hannah and someone picked them up, he would insist on giving them gas money, whether he had it to offer or not. It's just the man he is. And this man was laid off at the same time as my aunt, brother and uncle. It all just seemed a bit too coincidental and a bit overwhelming. So many people hear of others needing help, but I grew up without a home most of the time. I've been homeless and without food and I don't want to be in that position again, but that is selfish. The Lord knows our needs and he never fails to meet them.
I have been sick all weekend as my immune problems are seriously acting up again. I've pretty much felt awful this entire fall, and I've been having fevers off and on again for a couple of weeks and this weekend I had severe headaches. A little over a week ago I also started having some horrible side effects to my medicine that I won't even mention here. It's very depressing and draining on my system. However, I am VERY happy. I will not ask for help again. I appreciate the help we received during the past few weeks and we will continue to look for wood, but the encounter with this man reminded me once again that we are only worrying about our bills and my health. There could be so much more to worry over, but we serve an awesome God and even if we lost everything we own, we STILL would serve an awesome God.
God doesn't change and I believe the lesson in all this is that nothing on this earth really matters except what we do with what we have (are we willing to share what we've been given to someone who needs it even more?) and what we do with what we KNOW (are we willing to share the gospel with those who may not have a relationship with the savior?).I'm sorry this is long. I figure since I haven't written much in the past couple of weeks, I could make up a tiny bit. I also wanted to give everyone an update and encourage you this holiday season to share with someone in need. Many of you are. Some of you have so little to share in material terms, but you can share the GOOD NEWS. Others sit on thrones of judgment and offer nothing to those who they believe have gotten themselves into the situation and should get themselves out. It is good to know that most of the people who will read this fall into the first two categories.
I'm sure most of you have heard of cases this year of need in your community, through your church, etc. Many of the people in greatest need don't go to church. They think "those people" (Christians) judge them and they aren't "good enough" to go to church. Reach out to these people, too. They are perhaps in the greatest need because they don't have a church to offer them material help, but also they don't have the Lord to provide comfort. Find them. Pray for them. Look for them. Trust me, if you are willing to reach out to them, God will place them in your path, even if it means that he has to put them right beside your vehicle on a drizzly day on the side of the road. If you are willing, He will give you an opportunity to serve Him.
I pray that all of you who are worrying right now about bills, the economy, relationships, your job, etc. will find peace this holiday season. I also hope that you will have many opportunities to share with others this Christmas and throughout the coming year. It truly is a blessing to be able to give something to someone else, whether it's a ride, a new toothbrush, or a simply a bit of friendship.
In Christ,
Sonya Haskins
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